A true relationship happens in the invisible. The material world may or may not be part of it, may or may not contribute to the realization of the relationship. A true relationship happens in the subtle realms, and the ways we demand it move to the material decrease rather than increase its potency. In the everyday world, we often mark intimacy by proximity, whereas in the world of Eros, it is marked by the capacity to maintain polarity, irrespective of time and space.
When we are erotically young, we need to learn the material, to establish the physical analog for the workings of love. All lessons are transmitted through physical contact. As we progress, it is not that we must lose physical contact but it is no longer required in order to maintain contact. It is a "both, and." When we are called to meet in the physical, we have acuity; when we are called to meet in the energetic, we attune to the subtle.
We learn various laws in the physical that we carry up to energetic abstraction. As we grow in Erotic maturity—because nature rewards efficiency—we may be called to other physical locations to do our work, and we need not only maintain the connection we had prior, but deepen it.
The prescribed roles that exist in relationships occurring merely in the physical initially feel comforting; the mind can relax and enter automatic, prescriptive relating. Upon entering such a role within this type of relationship, however, we step out of the endless potential of optionality that requires us to remain forever open and awake to choice. The pull is great and we may be tempted to enter.
In order to avoid collapsing into it, we must notice where the pull is stronger than our capacity to maintain conscious attention, and pull back before it is too late. That collapse, although it may feel initially like a joyous release, is in fact entering a type of prison—an agreement to limit potential for the seeming luxury of routine. Whenever we find ourselves in situations with diminishing returns, we can know it is the equivalent to recidivism.
We have chosen to return to prison because we will not develop the resources necessary to live in a world of choice.
Whatever we call a relationship over the label of friend, is that many letters too many for what it is. It is an overlay based on the belief that we need to embellish nature, where the embellishment or filler comes to be what we know, rather than the essence of the person we care for.
The great culprit that drives people to do this is the identity of "special." "Special," though, is a trick that suggests love is a narrowing and a reduction rather than an expansion, and this simply is not so. In Eros, we want our love to occur in the physical as a vehicle to the absolute, not as a sentence that we serve merely in the physical.
If we are reliant on everyday senses to see displays of love or affection, then we limit ourselves and what this relationship can do and be for the two relating. Our relationship becomes one that limits the potential of what can occur in the physical, rather than being one that uses the origin of the physical to grow and expand the world for each other.
If we are to honor the love we experienced in the physical, a key shift is required. This shift will bring some relationships into infinite potential, where the relationship itself is an honoring of love. Some relationships we will keep in finite potential, where the relationship is used as a fortress against life rather than a launch pad.
The key is to begin extending the senses so we can be further and further in physical distance while maintaining continuous connection, without pulling on the thread of physicality. A deep trust must be established so when the physical is called for it will happen organically; this connection is available in the invisible.
In fact, the true calling of what brought us together—the initial magnetism—was to develop these senses. Those we are most attracted to offer the greatest potential to know each other in the subtle realms.
True relationship is walking each other home to freedom and carrying out what is necessary in the name of this love, in the name of this relationship. The idea of love is rooted in holding or clinging. The action of love is based in an establishing of conditions that will foster liberation. To do this together and apart is the work of love.
Everything, though, will be done in the name of this relationship; every call of the highest order will be offered to it. This is how we grow ourselves out of the immaturity of the mere physical and into our realized potential, which happens in both the physical and the invisible.
