Any sensation we do not face at the raw level will become a thought that bothers us. When we keep replaying something that bothers us, it eventually becomes a feeling of hopelessness, apathy, or victimization, and then it becomes an action in the world, like the inability to get out of bed. Or a passive-aggressive swipe at a partner. Or contracting against the world, operating always as if there is an enemy.
Every single sensation can be opened to. In OM, we first open the spot that is being stroked, then the whole of the clitoris, then the genitals, then the body, heart, mind, and soul open. We can open in the same way to sensations outside of OM. We have an experience and we open our genitals, body, heart, mind, and soul.
This is when we have the capacity to become truly enlivened—a dynamic, vivacious, playful response, the Erotic version of liberation. This means the ability to remain open to all of it, replete with the capacity to receive and transmute, take in the power from anything and convert it to love.
The consequence of not opening is always that we end up swimming in a small, triangular pool visiting each corner, from victim to savior to villain—which is an extension of victim, by needing to protect oneself by striking first. The result is always identification with the concept of victim.
We are always victimized by what we do not open to. Not caring, being above it all, avoiding are also forms of victimization, because we are kept from expressing and connecting to the love that we are in essence, and whenever that happens there is an unmet need.
That unmet need turns to a type of scarcity that translates to victimhood. The inner critic, blaming others, helplessness in the face of what is asked of us, activism without taking action, furor over “that group” taking something from “our group,” loneliness, and the shock of betrayal that become a kind of identity we can’t let go of—these are all forms of victim consciousness.
Our lives as we experience them are a direct result of our capacity to stroke and be stroked. Our difficulties, our drama, our suffering—while amazing human experiences—are a result of either not opening to a stroke, or stroking sloppily.
If we are courageous, thorough, and uncompromising in recognizing that only the spot will gratify, and we will settle for nothing less, then we will have power to locate the spot. The most sensitive spot—when we stay with it—will yield the greatest returns in terms of our evolution. It will shift us the most from our conditioned response to a fresh response from the soul that is always and ever in service to the interdependence of all things.